Is it normal for children to have fears?

Yes, fear is a normal part of childhood.  Fear is important in keeping us safe and secure. Our brains are wired to protect us from danger so it can be evolutionary in nature.Storm cloud

Some fears that infants and toddlers have are;

  • Loud noises or sudden movement
  • Fear of strangers even if it’s a relative or family member
  • Separation from caregiver
  • New places
  • Changes in their environment

 Child in maskSome fears that pre-schoolers experience.

  • Fear of the dark
  • Monsters and ghosts
  • Masks , especially during Halloween, can be very frightening to them
  • Animals like dogs or cats

 Some fears that elementary school children experience?       Doctor with an injection

  • Being home alone
  • Injury, illness, doctors, shots, or death
  • Snakes and spiders
  • Fear of teachers who are angry
  • Storms and natural disasters
  • Scary movies or TV shows
  • Fear and rejection

 

How to help ease fears in infants and toddlers?

Parents are able to regulate their child’s emotion by being calm and supportive . Limit the amount of stranger or new places that you leave your child at. Introduce and stay with the child until they adjust. Maintain a predictable routine  to help the child feel secure, create a close and strong bond built on trust by making good eye-contact, talking, holding rocking, singing, and playing.

How do I help ease the fears in pre-schoolers?

For example, spray the monster with water. Keep their door open at night, have a night light and stuffed animal or blanket to give them.  Read them books about fearful monsters or animals.  Expose them to a pet store or zoo to learn about animals and stand back and watch until they are comfortable.  Hire a consistent caring and loving babysitter.

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How do I ease the school age fears?

Reassure your child during a storm that they are safe and cuddle with them.Talk about emotions and role play or problem solve what to do when they feel that way.  Screen scary movies or TV that are age appropriate. Talk about doctor appointments ahead of time to relax your child.  Reassure your child that making mistakes in school is part of learning.

I hope these suggestions will be helpful with your child.