There is a root problem here though, and it is something many women deal with all the time. In the midst of Alice creating the fairy-tale life with her husband, she completely forgot about what she wanted. After being with him for a total of 11 years, she was 14 when they met, her aspirations were put aside to create dreams for her relationship and marriage as a couple. Eventually, that festers and unfortunately for her it came crashing down. Alice said it took years for her to build up the courage and not feel guilty about wanting a divorce. For good reason of course, her entire life had been spent building a joint one, so why now do something for herself when it was time to have some kids and officially settle down? Plainly, Alice said, “I feel like I finally had to take responsibility for myself and I had to be true to myself no matter how much it affected other people.”
In this effort for her to be true to herself, she has also discovered a lot about her personality and growth as a person. Alice knew who she was in a relationship but not who she was out of one. Her advice to cope with a completely changed life path is to become comfortable with the uncomfortable. Going to the grocery store she doesn’t see anyone she recognizes, which at times is slightly lonely but also creates a home to build independence.
Did her age cause the relationship to end? Are all marriages at a young age doomed to fail? Alice doesn’t think so because if two people truely know what they want it will work. Is it ok to want the white picket fence and 2.5 children? Is it ok to change your mind and start life over? Of course; own your decisions, be true to yourself and be sure you can live with whatever decisions you make and the rest will fall at your feet.